If you look back on the time you have spent as an adult, do you feel like you have been too much of a people pleaser? This is often the case with most individuals, both in their personal and professional lives. One of the ways to achieve work-life balance is to say No.
Learning how to say no is a great way to develop the kind of life you want for increased happiness and productivity.
Start by analyzing your personal commitments.
There are many times when well-meaning friends and family will look to delegate their tasks onto you, especially if you work at home.
They often don’t understand that building an online business actually entails work and that your time is just as valuable as theirs.
Most people can’t fathom the idea of actually having to put in the same amount of effort as a solo entrepreneur working from home as someone who works in the corporate world.
Actually, it often takes more effort when you are getting started building your online business.
But, people will assume that you have nothing to do and that since you are home…you have no reason not to give in to their requests.
Have you been asked to watch someone else’s children, run errands for them, or do someone else’s chores?
Sometimes, they didn’t even have to ask, but you simply suggested it because you felt the need to lessen someone else’s burden.
This may have caused more of a burden on you, though.
Please don’t do this to yourself.
Just because you aren’t working for an employer doesn’t mean that your time means nothing.
You have your own things that are important to get done, both with your online business and with your home life.
Don’t guilt yourself into thinking that just because you have more freedom in your schedule that you have to do things for everyone else.
Your life and business matter too.
You will end up neglecting your own life and business because once you volunteer…you will be expected to always be available for everything else that comes up.
So, if you have taken on the tasks of others, it may be time to kindly return it to them to handle themselves.
In the future, you need to stop yourself from taking on everyone else’s problems, and learn how to say No when asked if you either don’t have time to do something, or simply don’t want to.
And stop volunteering, unless you truly have the time and your life and business are already running well and thriving.
Taking on too much of other people’s needs, whether you were asked to or you took it upon yourself to help, will end up causing you to be stressed out.
You will end up feeling resentful and like you have been taken advantage of by others, just because you work for yourself from home.
You might even end up doing things you don’t want to do at all, after already doing other things that you didn’t mind doing.
This will create even more stress and resentment.
Sometimes, just the fact that you are having to do something you don’t want to do can cause stress that interferes with your focus and creativity while you’re trying to work on your online business.
Now, besides learning to say No with non-work related things, you also want to learn how to say No with your online business.
There are some things you may have agreed to with clients or colleagues that you didn’t really feel comfortable with from the start.
For example, you may have agreed to promote someone whose products you really don’t like, but you didn’t want to be rude.
This kind of stress can ruin your entire day, especially if you begin having to field complaints from customers who are disappointed in your recommendations.
If you have entered into a joint venture agreement with another online entrepreneur, and they seem to be unloading all of their tasks onto your plate, you need to be proactive and put a stop to it.
It should be an equal endeavor where both parties are contributing the same to the project.
The bottom line is that it’s okay to be particular about who you work with and what projects you agree to because it is your online business that suffers in the end.
You didn’t decide to work for yourself, instead of a boss, just to end up miserable.
So, it’s okay to say No, when it’s going to affect the quality of your life and business.
Setting boundaries is always the best way to create the work-life balance that you need to be successful.
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My Online Journey
You don’t know me. I’m not some flashy internet marketer with my name and face all over the internet.
Nope. I’m actually way too introverted for that 🙂
I’m just an ordinary person that had to figure out a way to make money online when I lost my job in 2008, due to health issues.
In the offline world, I gained several years experience in Customer Service, Accounts Payable and Accounts Receivable and various other clerical type positions.
Much of it was drudgery, especially working in call centers.
I was good at my various jobs, but I did not enjoy being hostage to a cubicle and headset..lol 🙂
But, you do what soul sucking jobs you have to do, in order to make money to pay the bills.
As a free spirit, I always had the deep desire to break free from the cubicle-zombie-robot rat race world and have full control over my time, income and life, without having to have permission from a boss.
I was tired of being just another “number” that was expendable, no matter how dependable I was or how hard I worked (just to help build someone else’s wealth and make their dreams come true).
I wanted to create MY freedom…not just build it for someone else.
Unexpectedly in 2008, severe neck issues forced me out of the 9 to 5 corporate world rat race (before I was actually ready financially, which really sucked a lot and was pretty scary).
My neck issues got worse after years of being trapped at a computer, with little to no permission to get up and move around and stretch.
This is not good when you are suffering from old car accident injuries.
This was especially the case in call center jobs with low cubicle walls. They didn’t want you standing up, due to the noise while on calls.
And although losing my job and the paycheck was a less than pleasant experience, my goal was to be an online entrepreneur anyway.
But, I was forced to make it happen at that point…which was not ideal.
Wasted Time Dabbling
It’s better to have a 2nd income already coming in regularly before losing your main source of income, but I had no control over what happened.
I had already been “dabbling” in internet marketing, on the side, since 2004…basically wasting time.
I treated it as a hobby, instead of an online business.
I actually made a little bit of money with affiliate commissions and some advertising revenue, but it was nothing to write home about because I did not build it up.
If I had realized that my health was going to go sideways so badly in 2008, then I would’ve taken my online business “side gig” much more seriously.
I would’ve hustled, even while still working a full-time job, because 4 years would’ve been more than enough time to have built that online business into a full-time income.
Just an extra 1 hour per day consistently over that 4 year period…would have made all the difference.
So, after I lost my job in 2008, I was in a real bind for more than one reason.
I needed to get serious and stop dabbling and start hustling to make money online, but it takes time to build an online business that brings in consistent income.
I was out of time. My household went from two incomes to one and I needed to get moving.
The problem was my severe neck issues and the accompanying dizziness from nerve damage in my C1 Vertebrae, the Atlas.
So, this meant that I couldn’t exactly hustle like I needed to because being on a computer for hours each day at home is no different than doing it at a job.
I was no longer able to do this, if I wanted to not end up completely disabled or bed-ridden.
The years 2008-2011 were extremely tough in trying to heal, but with proper therapy, the worst of it got better, but it’s not 100%.
Even now in 2022, I still can only be on a computer so much each day, without causing flare-ups.
So again, if I had taken it all more seriously, then I wouldn’t have ended up with so many financial worries, when I lost my job.
I would’ve had something more substantial to fall back on during times that were difficult money-wise and health-wise.
Then, add in beating my head against the wall, jumping from one “program” to another and basically flushing more time and money down the toilet.
Losing my job made me act in desperation because I wanted to make something happen right now.
So, I ended up doing what a lot of people do, which is looking for a shortcut and something “quick” or “push button”…which is not realistic because it doesn’t really exist.
Then in 2012, I joined Wealthy Affiliate because it had the tools and resources I needed all in one place, to help me build an online business.
Fast forward to 2020, I joined The Home Business Academy to add even more great tools and resources to my online business arsenal.
I now use both of these resources to build my online business.
I enjoy making money online because I can work from anywhere and on my own schedule, while still being able to take care of my health.
You Can Do It Too
So, why do I tell you all of this?
I share all of this with you, so you’ll know it’s possible to make money online and have total freedom from the 9-5 grind.
It takes time to build an online business, but it’s worth it to build either a side-income to supplement your full-time job or replace your job.
If you have found yourself in a similar situation to me or you simply want to get ahead of things and plan for the future, your goal going forward should be to not waste any more time.
Whether you love your job or hate your job, it’s always a good idea to have a Plan B to supplement your income or replace your income.
You never know what can happen with your job or even with your health.
Don’t waste time, like I did.
Just get started and keep going.
Do not dabble.
Take action now.
And most importantly, believe in yourself.
You can do it!
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