Maybe Your Self Perception Wasn’t Chosen By You

Whether we realize it or not, we often let others shape who we are. So, maybe your self perception wasn’t chosen by you and this includes both positive self perceptions and negative self perceptions.

Why would this be the case?

Well, how we grew up, the environment we’re currently in and the people we know all mold our personalities and outlooks on life.

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However, that doesn’t mean that you should ignore your own wishes in life.

Other people’s perceptions of you and your life doesn’t have to be your reality.

Ultimately, what other people think about who you are is not as important as what you think of yourself.

You have to be content with who you are, and to be absolutely content with yourself …you must carve out your own personality and live your own life, on your own terms.

It can be scary, if all you’ve ever known is doing what other people have told you to do.

If all you know and believe about yourself and the world in general, is what other people think, then you won’t make the choices that are best for you.

You’ll never be truly happy until you pursue your own path.

It’s very easy to be influenced by others, especially when you’re young and still developing.

You might have had a mean teacher who told you that you would never amount to anything, and those words might stick with you today.

You might not even realize how deep those abusive words from a thoughtless person cut you.

Maybe one or both of your parents placed expectations that were either too high or too low for you.

They might have told you that you have to be a doctor or a lawyer, and nothing else will do, or they may have told you that you might as well get comfortable working a retail job, because that’s all you’ll ever be good for.

Or they may have discouraged you and deflated your enthusiasm to pursue a specific thing that you would enjoy doing in life.

You have to find the strength and the courage to dismiss the expectations of other people, and be who you want to be.

Just remember, you know yourself the best.

You know what your passions and interests in life are, even if your family and friends don’t know or understand.

Many are just nervous that you will screw up your life.

For example, if you want to launch your own online business, but they’re unfamiliar with the concept of making money online, then they may try to dissuade you from even trying it at all.

This is out of their own fears and has nothing to do with actual reality.

Over the years, countless people have built a profitable online business and often did it despite the misgivings of others.

You’ll just have to do it without their support and understanding.

Sometimes, it’s even best NOT to tell anyone what you are doing or what your plans are and just do it, especially when it comes to building an online business.

Most of society is conditioned to work a job or a career in a brick and mortar business.

Even if you end up making 6-7 figures as an internet marketer, you still may have trouble convincing people that what you’re doing is legitimate.

This is very common because they think you should be in the 9-5 rat race, just like everyone else.

If you’ve always dreamed of being an artist, but everyone pressured you to become something “better” with higher pay, you have to look past what they say.

Very few people have said that they’re glad they never pursued their dreams and just followed everyone else’s advice.

I’ve never heard of anyone saying this.

It might be difficult and it might not even work out, but you’ll never have to wonder what could have been, if you had just tried.

You can find satisfaction in knowing that you pursued what you wanted to do and tried your best.

You also have to be able to define what kind of person you are.

Nobody is born inherently worth more or less than anyone else.

If a few people think that you’re just a piece of trash, you have to look at who they are as a person, devaluing other people to make themselves feel better.

Stop and consider the source.

If someone tells you that you’re worthless, ignore them.

They may not know your story and they don’t know who you are in your mind and heart, and they really shouldn’t make assumptions.

Evaluate your own worth.

Think about the people that actually do love and support you, think about the good that you do, and how you make a positive contribution to the world.

If you feel like it’s lacking, then make the changes that will make you feel better about yourself.

You get to determine how you perceive yourself and your life.

Nobody can live your life for you.

So, why let their opinions determine your self perceptions?

Free yourself from the expectations and perceptions of other people and you will feel even better about yourself and your path in life.

Thanks for stopping by and have a great day 🙂

To Your Success,

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About

Nicole Lynn

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My Online Journey

You don’t know me. I’m not some flashy internet marketer with my name and face all over the internet.

Nope. I’m actually way too introverted for that 🙂

I’m just an ordinary person that had to figure out a way to make money online when I lost my job in 2008, due to health issues.

In the offline world, I gained several years experience in Customer Service, Accounts Payable and Accounts Receivable and various other clerical type positions.

Much of it was drudgery, especially working in call centers.

I was good at my various jobs, but I did not enjoy being hostage to a cubicle and headset..lol 🙂

But, you do what soul sucking jobs you have to do, in order to make money to pay the bills.

As a free spirit, I always had the deep desire to break free from the cubicle-zombie-robot rat race world and have full control over my time, income and life, without having to have permission from a boss.

I was tired of being just another “number” that was expendable, no matter how dependable I was or how hard I worked (just to help build someone else’s wealth and make their dreams come true).

I wanted to create MY freedom…not just build it for someone else.

Unexpectedly in 2008, severe neck issues forced me out of the 9 to 5 corporate world rat race (before I was actually ready financially, which really sucked a lot and was pretty scary).

My neck issues got worse after years of being trapped at a computer, with little to no permission to get up and move around and stretch.

This is not good when you are suffering from old car accident injuries.

This was especially the case in call center jobs with low cubicle walls. They didn’t want you standing up, due to the noise while on calls.

And although losing my job and the paycheck was a less than pleasant experience, my goal was to be an online entrepreneur anyway.

But, I was forced to make it happen at that point…which was not ideal.

Wasted Time Dabbling

It’s better to have a 2nd income already coming in regularly before losing your main source of income, but I had no control over what happened.

I had already been “dabbling” in internet marketing, on the side, since 2004…basically wasting time.

I treated it as a hobby, instead of an online business.

I actually made a little bit of money with affiliate commissions and some advertising revenue, but it was nothing to write home about because I did not build it up.

If I had realized that my health was going to go sideways so badly in 2008, then I would’ve taken my online business “side gig” much more seriously.

I would’ve hustled, even while still working a full-time job, because 4 years would’ve been more than enough time to have built that online business into a full-time income.

Just an extra 1 hour per day consistently over that 4 year period…would have made all the difference.

So, after I lost my job in 2008, I was in a real bind for more than one reason.

I needed to get serious and stop dabbling and start hustling to make money online, but it takes time to build an online business that brings in consistent income.

I was out of time. My household went from two incomes to one and I needed to get moving.

The problem was my severe neck issues and the accompanying dizziness from nerve damage in my C1 Vertebrae, the Atlas.

So, this meant that I couldn’t exactly hustle like I needed to because being on a computer for hours each day at home is no different than doing it at a job.

I was no longer able to do this, if I wanted to not end up completely disabled or bed-ridden.

The years 2008-2011 were extremely tough in trying to heal, but with proper therapy, the worst of it got better, but it’s not 100%.

Even now in 2022, I still can only be on a computer so much each day, without causing flare-ups.

So again, if I had taken it all more seriously, then I wouldn’t have ended up with so many financial worries, when I lost my job.

I would’ve had something more substantial to fall back on during times that were difficult money-wise and health-wise.

Then, add in beating my head against the wall, jumping from one “program” to another and basically flushing more time and money down the toilet.

Losing my job made me act in desperation because I wanted to make something happen right now.

So, I ended up doing what a lot of people do, which is looking for a shortcut and something “quick” or “push button”…which is not realistic because it doesn’t really exist.

Then in 2012, I joined Wealthy Affiliate because it had the tools and resources I needed all in one place, to help me build an online business.

Fast forward to 2020, I joined The Home Business Academy to add even more great tools and resources to my online business arsenal.

I now use both of these resources to build my online business.

I talk more about this over on my Recommended Resources page listed under Resources #1 and #2.

I enjoy making money online because I can work from anywhere and on my own schedule, while still being able to take care of my health.

You Can Do It Too

So, why do I tell you all of this?

I share all of this with you, so you’ll know it’s possible to make money online and have total freedom from the 9-5 grind.

It takes time to build an online business, but it’s worth it to build either a side-income to supplement your full-time job or replace your job.

If you have found yourself in a similar situation to me or you simply want to get ahead of things and plan for the future, your goal going forward should be to not waste any more time.

Whether you love your job or hate your job, it’s always a good idea to have a Plan B to supplement your income or replace your income.

You never know what can happen with your job or even with your health.

Don’t waste time, like I did.

Just get started and keep going.

Hustle.

Do not dabble.

Take action now.

And most importantly, believe in yourself.

You can do it!